Grow and Go

Posted by betsyjordan on Oct 21, 2011 in Wise Words from Betsy | 0 comments

OMG!  Stronger guilt-provoking words do not exist.   Having to prove your love for someone by giving things, being different, wearing certain clothes, saying certain things, liking a certain group of people that is a contract which is always a lose lose proposition.

The possibility of a win win happens when love and acceptance for who you are, whatever you happen to be wearing, whoever you choose to associate with, behaving in the manner that you choose to behave.  Yes, there ARE laws about how we interact in civilized societies, yet the point here is to open up the doorways of acceptance and into loving each other.

I knew of a couple who were entertaining the idea that she would take a Leadership class.  He said to her, “If you take this class, you don’t love me.”  As preposterous as that sounds … to me … she decided to skip the class.

I ask you, “Did their relationship grow from that experience?”  The motivation for her, to grow and change died when she was threatened with the loss of her mate.  How often does this occur in relationships?

The bigger possibility for this couple would have been for her to take her class and still love her mate!  By playing to his insecurities, she limited them both.

So, because you love me, you will grow!  Now there’s a motivator for you!  Grow and go.